I Forgot

I don’t remember, I don’t recall
I got no memory of anything at all

facebook

OK, you know how it is. You do a lot of drugs, specifically amyl nitrate (otherwise known as “poppers,” which, according to the directions, are to be uncapped and left open so that the fumes can waft around the room but of course everyone ignores this and snorts the fumes directly into their brain cells), and you forget stuff. Large chunks of stuff. It’s not so bad.

Until.

You join Facebook. And people from your past—people who REMEMBER things—start contacting you. They remember YOU. And yes, you remember them, too, but vaguely.

Won’t you please share with me this blast from my past?

I remember you fondly cuz you accepted me for who I was during a time when I was really struggling w/an identity crisis and felt unaccepted or challenged by most. We ate lunch together most days and I came to your house a few times and hung out . . . had my first major stoned episode there on the couch and almost felt like I could fly away :0) while meanwhile couples were taking turns in the bedrooms. Yes, those were wild times and always in the background Led Zeppelin or Rush was boomin’.

OK, uh . . . I remember Led Zeppelin. And I do remember this girl, now woman, who was indeed my friend, but . . . damn, I just don’t remember the details. When I think of high school—at least the first two years—I have this shadowy collection of images: Roach-clip earrings. Wearing a guy’s ID bracelet. Strawberry-flavored rolling papers. Everyone hating me. Always wearing black. Feeling ugly and uncool. The smoking pit. Screaming matches with my mom. My boyfriend shooting himself in the head after I broke up with him. Hmmm. Such a weird, hazy time. Maybe I’m better off not remembering.

Hearing from this friend—wow. It’s nice to know that there was at least one person in high school who didn’t hate me. Later, during my junior year, I met a nice guy, got a job in a pizza restaurant, and actually started looking people in the eye again. I remember that.

In addition to messages from old friends, I’m getting notices about our 30-year high school reunion. I don’t think I’ll go. I probably wouldn’t remember anyone.

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56 Responses to “I Forgot”

  1. 1 Puglette

    wow, did we have a similar high school experience. i haven’t been to any of my high school reunions because i don’t want to dredge up those old emotions. ugh i am glad to have moved away. not that i would recognize anyone, i just don’t remember people and i just don’t pay attention. i think that’s why i don’t join the social networks…i like being puglette, no one knows who i am except the family that loves me now.

    sorry, no pithy comment today.
    puglette

    Puglette’s last blog post..Velkommen ’til Poulsbo!

  2. 2 Puglette

    oh…i forgot to mention that i am being hounded by a reunion association from nogales high school. they keep sending postcards asking me to sign up for their reunion book. trouble is i did not go to that school, it’s in new mexico and i grew up in california. the postcards are getting kind of snarky, and accusatory. i am ignoring their pleas.
    ;o)

    Puglette’s last blog post..Velkommen ’til Poulsbo!

  3. 3 maggie

    Puglette, you should go to that random class reunion!

    maggie’s last blog post..Fiberart for a Cause

  4. 4 April

    I have the same problem when people from my past reappear. A group of people from middle school recently found me on Facebook and I remember some of them but most of the time I have to call up the girl that was my BFF back in those days and ask who the heck soandso is? She understands my memory failure, most of which was out of self-defense, so she tells me if I shouldn’t respond to that person for my sanity. I’m lucky to have her. :D

  5. 5 Trade Show Guru

    hi JD,
    Thanks for “forgetting” for me so that I don’t have to, but I have no problem doing that for myself. No problem at all… maybe it’s too much beer drinking. Or did the doctor say it was something else? Dang, I can’t remember… ~ Steve, the extremely forgetful trade show guru

    Trade Show Guru’s last blog post..Trade Show Exhibit Booths and SEO

  6. 6 janine

    First of all, thank you for doing all this stuff for me. I no longer have to do anything which is nice. again, thanks.

    Facebook. I am a facebook drop out. As in I joined, I tried to change the settings so everyone didn’t see my everything, people kept appearing and saying things like “Yay!” and “About time” and I’ll be damned if I knew who these people were.

    So I unjoined. Quickly. Now I know all i have to do is sign in and everything is all Facebooky again, but that’s one thing I’m not going to do.

    Which means I suppose that you’ll end up doing it for me.

    I owe you big time.

    janine’s last blog post..

  7. 7 Stephanie

    Your boyfriend shot himself in the head??? Hon, you can do better (and I see you did with your robot). I understand why you wiped so much from your brain.

    It’s official, though, I’m a mutant. I hear the stories of all the people I know and admire and like and I clearly was living on a different planet from the rest of you (aside from being so painfully uncool, I wouldn’t have been worth the spitwads to you guys).

    Either that or I’m a robot.

    By the way, how’s that back pain?

    Stephanie’s last blog post..For Shakespeare: Parenting Guidelines Part 3

  8. 8 Daisy the Curly Cat

    My Mommie has been tempted, but has so far resisted, joining Facebook. She was a high school nerd, and I do not think there is anyone from that time she really wants to reconnect with. Or who would want to reconnect with her!

    Daisy the Curly Cat’s last blog post..Wordless Wednesday: Achooo!

  9. 9 absepa

    Ugh…high school. I don’t have very good memories of it, either, although mine were not nearly as dramatic as yours. I didn’t really have any friends, so I spent my lunch hours sitting in the hallway reading, and the rest of the time dodging people who picked on me. A girl in my art class told me I was “so plain and boring.” One good thing about not knowing anyone is that no one has popped up to surprise me on Facebook! I have reconnected with some junior high friends there, which has been pretty cool. My favorite thing about Facebook, however, seems to be looking at the photos of all the other women I graduated with, and trying to decide if they look younger than me.

    absepa’s last blog post..Flickr Fun Friday: It’s Inescapable

  10. 10 Pricilla

    The publicist forgets a lot of that time but mostly due to her brain surgery. People have contacted her on facebook but she is a computer bobo and doesn’t work it very well and forgets to answer so they think she is rude.

    She did go to her 25th reunion several years ago and did have a good time. Some times it is good not to remember the worst years of your life.

    Pricilla’s last blog post..Cats and Goats – Who Rules the Farm?

  11. 11 Canucklehead

    hmmph. I think we knew each other in high school – the whole couch thing sounds familiar but I’ll need you to step outta the tub to know for sure.

    ps – I was of the understanding that only Canadians listened to Rush – good to know I was wrong …

    /shuffles off to crank Tom Sawyer on his iPod

    Canucklehead’s last blog post..BluePont to be Kidding Me!

  12. 12 C.B.Jones

    Reason #5643 of why i don’t use facebook: people remember shit I try oh so very hard to forget.

    C.B.Jones’s last blog post..The End All Beat All Guide to Dealing With Squirrels

  13. 13 Kathy

    I had very few friends in high school, but was attached to the hip with a boyfriend who was really no good for me. I think that’s why I had few friends and why no one’s breaking down doors to find me on Facebook. Be glad people are looking you up. I’m invisible. I’m sorry to read about your boyfriend incident.

    Daisy’s Mom, please reconsider joining Facebook. Facebook needs a little Daisy and it’d boost your blog traffic even more. Trust me. When I see Daisy’s face anywhere, I want to click!

    Kathy’s last blog post..Cheeseburgers and Harvard

  14. 14 babs - beetle

    Well I was contacted by someone on ‘Friends reunited’. She remembered me, and even my sisters. She said she called round my house every day and we walked to school together. EVERY DAY! I couldn’t remember who she was. She sent me a photo of her taken back then, and I kind of vaguely remembered her face, but that was it! I don’t recall us being friends even, let alone her calling round my house every day! You are not alone in the memory (or lack of) thing.

    babs – beetle’s last blog post..My life in three minutes

  15. 15 Prefers Her Fantasy Life

    I lived in the same city all of my life. Every once in a while I run into people from HS or college who tell me they’ve been looking for me on Facebook. What I’m wondering is, in all these years, didn’t they think to try the phonebook.

  16. 16 JD

    Puglette: Aw, that’s nice. I joined Facebook mainly to promote my blog—I really didn’t plan on anyone “finding” me. But I’m glad this person did. Maybe she can fill me in on some of the nicer stuff. And, oh! I think you should go to that reunion! How funny. See how many people pretend to remember you.

    maggie: Yes, my thought exactly!

    April: Well, so far I’ve been lucky. No creeps have gotten in touch with me. Yet. I guess that’s the price you pay for putting yourself “out there.”

    Trade Show Guru: I wouldn’t worry about it. Just crack open another Red Stripe. I’ll keep forgetting for both of us.

    janine: You’re very welcome. Wait till it’s vacation time. You might not be so grateful then. Heh. I like the idea of signing in and everything being all “Facebooky.” But don’t you worry. That’s what I’m here for.

    Stephanie: Yes, I’ve come a long way. You are neither a robot NOR are you uncool—then or now. Believe me, I was the target of spitwads, not the shooter of them! (Back pain is tolerable, thanks for asking. I’ll probably be heading in for more shots in a few weeks.)

    Daisy the Curly Cat: I read ahead to Kathy’s comment, and I agree: Nerd or not, your Mommie should join, just so more people can meet you and Harley. Er, and your Mommie, of course.

    absepa: Sounds like you’ve got your priorities in order. (I bet you look younger than all of them!) Oh, god. Is there anything worse than “plain and boring”? Tho I doubt you were either. Let’s all be glad those days are behind us.

    Pricilla: Well, the publicist has a much better excuse than I do for not remembering things! And Facebook, while enjoyable in some ways, is also a huge time-suck. The publicist probably has better ways to spend her time!

    Canucklehead: slowly emerges from the tub . . . Well? Is any of this familiar? Actually, I do NOT remember listening to Rush. But then I wouldn’t necessarily trust my memory.

    C.B. Jones: I’m fascinated, tho, by my poor memory. It just boggles my mind to hear people talk about things I was a part of but have no recollection of. It’s like a science experiment or something.

    Kathy: I’m sorry you had a not-so-spectacular high school experience. I guess sometimes no boyfriend is better than one who is no good for you, but at that age, it’s hard not to get attached. You may have been invisible THEN, but you are far from invisible now, my talented, hilarious, brilliant friend!

    babs – beetle: Boy, I’m starting to feel a lot better! I’m sorry everyone else has memory problems, but at least I’m not alone. I wish there was a way to watch your life like a movie . . . or maybe not.

    Prefers Her Fantasy Life: The phonebook? What’s that? Wait: I have a dim memory. Nope, it’s gone. Do you have a link?

  17. 17 Mama Needs a Cosmo

    Here is where I’d usually enter something relevant or snarky. But I’ve lost focus because I never knew there was such a thing as “strawberry flavored rolling papers.” How did I miss that? Do they still sell them? Because I could totally go for a strawberry-flavored high right now. (Or, maybe I could score some strawberry flavored Vikey. That would be cool too.)

  18. 18 Bumbles

    Reunions are the reason Facebook exists don’t you know. Your school has a reunion, only you didn’t go. But then you get an e-mail about all the photos being posted from the reunion and you really would like to see how fat the prom queen has gotten. So you try to go see the photos but you have to set up an account on Facebook to do it. And then all those people you skillfully avoided by skipping the reunion “friend” you left and right on Facebook and get all up in your business after all. So that is why I am not on Facebook. But my hubby is so I just send everyone over to drive him crazy.

    Bumbles’s last blog post..ON FUN ~ Help a Blogger Out…

  19. 19 flit

    I don’t even have the drug excuse for my not remembering anything much from high school…I just don’t.

    Had someone from summer camp where I worked contact me recently …. took me forever to place her…. but I remember her now. Vaguely.

    flit’s last blog post..Tay Township Trail ~Improvements~

  20. 20 Shakespeare

    Can you also lose everything from sunglasses to umbrellas to car titles for me, so that I stop?

    If only I’d known you were forgetting, I wouldn’t have tried so hard to do the same. Perhaps we were all spitball targets in high school, only we didn’t realize we weren’t the only ones.

    I also think Puglette should go to the reunion. Better yet, she should make up all sorts of stuff she remembers about everybody she meets… then they can all freak out!

    Shakespeare’s last blog post..Not About Writing

  21. 21 cardiogirl

    I have to say I’m actually sort of jealous that you had this experience with this chick and you don’t remember it. I would love to hear someone say something like that about me.

    Now on the other hand, wouldn’t it be crazy if that chick had a blog and did an experiment so she could blog about it.

    The experiment of course would be to contact an old friend from high school, leave that kind of half-fake memory on her facebook wall and then report back about what happened.

    Just a side note: I’m getting really pissed off at Comment Luv for jacking around with the post it shows. Things were great without any effort on my part and suddenly it says cURL error 7 everywhere I go.

    Even though I registered and actually put the stupid logo on my site to claim it. Are they trying to strong arm me, because that is not cool.

    Right, facebook. Um, good luck with all of that.

  22. 22 Grace

    Since I unfortunately remember everything, I appreciate your forgetting it for me – really. And no, thank god, I haven’t heard from any “old” friends lately. Whatever would we have to say to each other. We were on different paths even way back then.

    Grace’s last blog post..Things I’m liking today

  23. 23 Regan

    I can’t really add anything about my high school experiance because I haven’t had any yet. :)

    My overall school experiance has been pretty good. I’m not the most popular, but I have good friends. :)

    Regan’s last blog post..Girl Scout Cookies

  24. 24 Jeff

    I was a loner in high school, mostly because all my friends from my neighborhood were 3-5 years older than me. Five years ago I volunteered to build our HS reunion web site and now our 30th is coming up this summer and guess what???… “Jeff, can you update the web site with these 3 million changes?” Ugh.

    Jeff’s last blog post..Wanted: Your Marketing Genius

  25. 25 Musingwoman

    Ah, high school. I’d say my experience was 25% good, 75% blocked from my memory.

    Musingwoman’s last blog post..Imagine you’re a superhero

  26. 26 JD

    Mama Needs a Cosmo: Ohhhh. Strawberry-flavored Vikies. Wouldn’t that be awesome? I don’t know if they still make . . . oh, heck, of course they do!

    Bumbles: HA! Welcome, my dear Bumbles. And you are so right. Once I’ve laid my eyeballs on the fat prom queen, I’ll probably unjoin Facebook. That will be the pinnacle.

    flit: Yes . . . always vaguely. It just amazes me how some people remember the tiniest details. And I guess it isn’t always drugs, apparently. It bugs me. Are those memories in there somewhere? Or are they gone forever?

    Shakespeare: I’m sure I’ve forgotten enough for EVERYone! And, yeah, I bet we’d be surprised to hear how many “cool” people were actually insecure and freaking out. OK, we need to get a petition to make Puglette go to that reunion. She has to do it so we don’t have to!

    cardiogirl: It is pretty cool. AND she says she has pictures. I wouldn’t be at all surprised to find she has a blog and this is all some kind of experiment. It’s just the sort of thing Facebook would engender. Sorry about the lack of luv from Comment Luv!

    Grace: I’m happy I was able to forget for you. I am very interested to get together with this old friend. She sounds like a really neat person, and my oh, so vague memories are that she was very cool back then. So, we’ll see.

    Regan: Good friends are WAY more important than being popular. I think you’ll do just fine.

    Jeff: That sounds like a fun job. I don’t even think the people behind our reunion are organized enough to have a site. They’re just bombarding people on Facebook and classmates.com. Um, Jeff? Could you create a Web site for MY high school reunion?”

    Musingwoman: Sounds about right.

  27. 27 lucy

    I could relate to this in so many ways! So funny, in a poignant way. Unfortunately, I still have a hard time looking strangers in the eye. My 30th is in 2011. Out of curiousity I’d love to go, but I’ve been relying on name tags since the 10 year so what’s the point?

  28. 28 Corrina

    Wow. I wouldn’t want to remember some of that either. Thankfully you’re awesome enough now to make up for decades of high school, at least. ;-)

    I have a few hs friends on FB, but none who are grateful to know me. Lol

  29. 29 Preston

    Believe this or not, I had a fairly good time in high school, even with all the gay bashing and petty crap that went on. But I always knew that I would move on and that 99% of the people who I was dealing with in HS would not be a part of my life after hs, and I was right. I barely see anyone and barely care to. It’s history. I have no interest in reliving it, thank you.

    Preston’s last blog post..Bea Arthur & Dom DeLuise – Thanks for the Laughter

  30. 30 Lola

    Two days ago I went on my local high school’s reunion site and found out they finally posted the date and place for our 30 year reunion. I have no idea why I’m so psyched about going. (I feel a blog post about this coming on.) I was completely invisible in high school. So far only 2 other people have rsvp’d on the site, so part of me also wonders if they are going to cancel this reunion for lack of interest like they did for the 25 year reunion.

    Only 1 high school classmate knows that I am a lesbian and chances are, unless a whole lot has changed in her life since we last spoke, I doubt that she will attend. (Well, ok, knows and I confirmed it, because let’s face it, everyone figured it out before me after I left high school.)

    I’m a completely different person than I was in high school and for some reason, call it my out and proud mantra, I REALLY want to attend with Anastasia. Having said that, I have contact information for 1 classmate, we used to be in touch, but kind of stopped after awhile. I sent her an email notifying her of the event and she has rsvpd, but now I’m trying to catch her online to im and catch up. I’m also REALLY curious about a fellow classmate who used to put the moves on me back in the day, the last we talked she said that he and his partner were coming to visit her. That makes me soooo curious. How many heterosexual couples do you know refer to their significant other as “partner”?

    Lola’s last blog post..Dogs

  31. 31 Florida Girl In Sydney

    JD- I’m not sure if some of your commentors actually read this in its entirety, and understood the gravity of this post, ahem, I did. I am so so sorry to hear about you having to go through that. When things that are that extraordinarily freakish happen, it’s life changing. It’s kind of like my dad situation (being that he’s a gay fugitive), how do you put that on the table? With butter and rolls?

  32. 32 JD

    lucy: The point is: You need to go to your reunion so we don’t have to! Then report back here immediately and tell us who got fat. Thank you.

    Corrina: Heh. Yep, it was a long time ago, and plenty of awesomeness-building years have transpired in the interim. I’d love to hear more about YOUR high school years. I bet you were awesome even back then.

    Preston: Great attitude. Part of me wants to leave the past in the past, but the other part is dying to remember what all happened. Either way, you’re right: it’s history.

    Lola: Oooh, this sounds good. You have GOT to go, and not just ‘cuz it would make a great blog post. rubs hands together This is gonna be goooood!

    Florida Girl In Sydney: Thank you. I suspect people often skim over parts, and that part was kind of tucked away in there, easy to overlook. But thank you for not overlooking it. I didn’t plan to include it, but sometimes these things have a way of demanding to be let out. Now, I did NOT know about your dad’s situation, and am on my way to your blog to see if you did in fact put that on the table.

  33. 33 mlm

    I didn’t skim over it, I just thought you were kidding! (or, hoped you were kidding) That really sucks. I’m sorry that happened. It sounds like you and I are about the same age (I like to say that I’m thirty-eleven) and it sounds like we had many similar experiences in HS. I still live in the same town, and from time to time I see people I went to high school with. I try to avoid them like the plague–turning down aisles in the grocery store I don’t need go on, etc…I really don’t want to admit to them that I don’t remember all that much and that I probably don’t remember THEM.

  34. 34 Erik

    I had fairly happy memories and learned a lot of things during high school life. Some of my good friends now are my friends since high school and so, I didn’t hesitate to go in get-together with my HS batch mates and I always get excited when I bumped or stumbled them upon facebook and other social networking sites.

  35. 35 Stephen | Kindledude

    Well, Facebook is bad enough, I guess, but I contend it’s worse when it happens in real life!

    I, too, had a terrible time in High School. In part, this was my fault, because I was painfully shy. But other students were nuttin’ but nasty to me as well, and a couple of my teachers even participated–quite inappropriately, I now believe.

    At any rate, about once every three or four years, I meet in public (usually on the Metro) a gal from my high school. She says hello to me and acts like we’re some sort of friends. The first couple of times this happened, I asked if she’d like to get together socially (not a date, just coffee or whatever). She said no. Then a few years later, we meet and she acts like we’re best buds. I eventually realized that she is playing some kind of bizarre passive-aggressive game, and the last time I ran into her, I ignored her, and I hope she got the message.

    I guess living 60 miles away from my old high school isn’t far enough!

  36. 36 dcr

    I remember my 5 year high school reunion. Well, not exactly. I remember it happened, but I didn’t attend, though I think I sent in $5 or something to register.

    10 year reunion came and went. Did register for that one. They wanted $60 that time around.

    I don’t think I’ve gotten any notices since then. Maybe they haven’t had any more. Maybe they just don’t want me there. Maybe they’re like one of those catalogs where if you didn’t make a purchase in the last catalog, then they stop sending you new ones.

    Why does CommentLuv hate me now?

    Anyway, what was the point I was getting to? I don’t know–I got distracted by the CommentLuv thing. What is up with that? I just updated my feed, again, with them earlier this week, or last week, or sometime not too long ago. You hear me CommentLuv? You will have no place on my blog–that’s for sure! Don’t be hatin’, CommentLuv.

    Okay, back to reunions. Maybe they don’t do reunions anymore. Who knows? I just figure that if people wanted to find me, I’m not that hard to find. No one’s come looking, aside from my opponent in last year’s Presidential election (we both lost, in case you didn’t know). I think I carried the blogosphere. Well, my little corner of it, anyway.

    I still (mostly) remember high school. It’s grade school that seems to be fading. And seventh grade seems like two years, probably because I had different classes the two semesters. K-4 are somewhat of a blur.

    Why don’t they have kindergarten reunions? Like when you’re in the 9th grade, maybe you get together with all your K friends and see how far you’ve come. When you’re in kindergarten, high school kids seem old. Even in grade school, those high school kids seem old. So, why not have a 10-year kindergarten reunion? Now you’re old, but still young, so maybe that’ll help prepare you for a life of reaching those ages that always seemed so “old” to you when you were younger, but didn’t seem so old when you hit them. Put things in perspective, you know?

    Then again, they’ll probably be focused on how they have zits now and how gross that is.

  37. 37 dcr

    Wow. That was a long comment. Maybe I don’t need to do a blog post today and should just link to this. Nah, I’ll probably still do a blog post.

  38. 38 Natural

    couples taking turns in the bedroom? give me a minute, i’ll be back.

    i don’t care to FB with any of my friends from school. they can all keep it moving. no one has tried to contact me either, so i guess feeling is mutual. i did find one friend on FB, that’s enough.

    did you bf really shoot himself in the head? i have to go read your replies. i can’t get the one man i have to clip a toe nail, let alone shoot himself in the head for me.

    i’m so not going to a reunion either.

  39. 39 Lola

    Oh yeah, in addition to that guy, there was another guy, the only guy who EVER asked me out in high school. He asked me to the homecoming dance. I couldn’t go because my aunt’s wedding was that day.

    Flash forward 15 years later and this guy who asked me to the homecoming dance had his picture in the paper, clearing snow off his car. The caption “outed” him. It referenced him by name and said that he and his “partner” (in the photo, also clearly a man) were shoveling out their car in front of their apartment on the east side of Milwaukee. (The east side of Milwaukee being kind of like boys town in Chicago.)

    Lola’s last blog post..Lola’s Victory Garden Contest Ends Friday!

  40. 40 Baron von Rochester

    My friend Elissa has been telling me recently about what she calls the “Everything is forgiven on Facebook” phenomenon, wherein there’s some odd amnesty toward every asshole from one’s past, regardless of the abuse or suffering heaped upon one or mutually exchanged.

    This post reminded me of that … although clearly this is more of a “we were really close but you never knew it” phenomenon.

    Baron von Rochester’s last blog post..My Day at the Dentist

  41. 41 Jeff

    “That sounds like a fun job.”

    Exactly! JOB being the keyword there. If I actually got paid to do it that would be one thing, but I was being nice and volunteered my time for it.

    BTW… go here if you want to see it.

  42. 42 Jeff

    Oh poop… it put your URL in front of mine. Try this: http://www.denfeld79.org

    Nice… now I’ve totally oversold it. It’s not that great really.

  43. 43 Jay

    Hahaha! Well, I have had a similar experience, even though I did no drugs as a teenager (can you see my halo?). I met a woman once, when I was in my thirties and I was at a summer event with my boys, and she greeted me like .. well, like a long lost friend.

    Poor thing followed me around for about ten minutes trying to jog my memory, but though she remembered me very well and said we were friends, I couldn’t remember her at all! I had a vague memory of her name, that’s all. I was so embarrassed, yet I couldn’t pretend to know her, could I? Or it would have all got so much worse, so quickly… Yikes!

    But, hang on – your ex-boyfriend shot himself in the head? Could grief, how on earth did you cope with that?

    One of my ex-boyfriends married someone else a month after I ditched him, and a short while later attempted to kill her with a breadknife, but though it was shocking, at least no-one died. :(

  44. 44 JD

    mlm: I’m sure a lot of people thought I was joking—given my usual tone, and that’s cool. It was an awful time, but it was a long time ago. For all I know, I run into old high school associates all the time but don’t remember them!

    Erik: That’s awesome. I did have a few good friends from high school whom I would love to reconnect with. My last 2 years of high school weren’t too bad. I even got to open and close the talent show. Not bad for a burnout!

    Stephen | Kindledude: Oh, man. Teachers, too?! That sucks. What is it about shy kids that makes them such targets? I’m sorry you had to go thru that AND that stupid woman on the train. Yeah, she probably wanted to reassert her supposed “power” (that she probably no longer has in her current life) on an old high school acquaintance. LOSER!

    dcr: I would love a kindergarten reunion. I actually do remember some friends from kindergarten, and it would be awesome to get together and reminisce about nap time and story hour. Maybe your school stopped having reunions because the registration fee went from $5 to $60. I can’t imagine what they’d have charged for the 20-year reunion.

    I’m sorry for CommentLuv! It does say it will “try.” Maybe it’s not trying hard enough.

    Feel free to steal from your comment. Stephanie the Rocket Scientist does it all the time—with great results!

    Natural: “they can all keep it moving.” HA! I like that. Yes, he really shot himself in the head. There were other factors, but unfortunately he chose to do it right after we broke up, thus making me the most hated person on the planet, or at least at my high school. He wasn’t even a jerk. Just a sweet, sweet guy with some problems.

    Lola: HA! (And I didn’t know that about the east side of Milwaukee . . . hmmm!) Anyway, I wonder how many guys I had crushes on/dated/etc. were actually gay. We were all just trying to figure it out.

    Baron von Rochester: That’s an interesting theory. It coincides with how you can say or do anything online and it isn’t really real. The friend who contacted me—I actually can’t wait to see her. I have a feeling memories are going to come flooding back. They won’t all be good, but I’m ready.

    Jeff: Heh. OK, yes, I did go to the site. Nice job! I mean, you did a nice job. But who knows how much nicer a job you could’ve done if they’d paid you?

    Jay: It’s so hard to believe we would completely forget a whole person—especially someone we were supposedly close to. I have yet to be the “other” person—the one who remembers—but I’d probably feel a tad insulted. As for coping with my ex-boyfriend shooting myself, it was not easy. I truly don’t remember a lot about that time. Maybe my new Facebook/old high school friend can fill me in.

  45. 45 Florida Girl In Sydney

    Yeah, I did put it on there– it’s back toward my beginning, I think the post was appropriately called The Downside of Jazzercise (okay, maybe not so appropriately). I guess you could say I tucked it away too– you can probably google it. Wow, that always sounds dirty doesn’t it?

    Florida Girl In Sydney’s last blog post..It’s Not Me, It’s You

  46. 46 MomZombie

    Aside from the boyfriend shot himself part, we had the same high school experience. This is why I have friended very few folks from high school on Facebook. Funny how some of these folks never gave you the time of day in high school yet now are clamoring to friend you on Facebook, offering all sorts of effed-up “memories” of those days. I don’t want to reconnect with folks I haven’t talked to in three decades only to learn what their Top Five motor oil brands are.

    MomZombie’s last blog post..Why all my bathing suits are black or brown

  47. 47 misstfied

    Wow, JD, you sure had it rough during your high school years (as did some others, from the sounds of it). I’m sincerely sorry to hear that. My time at high school wasn’t the greatest but, compared to yours, ‘geez, mine was a breeze. I can’t say I didn’t have any friends, I did, and many of them are on Facebook with me now but, evenso, I don’t spend much time on FB “catching up” with them because I just don’t have the time to do so nor do I think it is a priority (my life NOW is far more important to me than it ever was back then). Once in a blue moon I will login to Facebook to see what’s new but, aside from that, I can’t really even be bothered. Like I said, my high school years do sound like they may have been better than yours but, sheesh, not so great that I’d spend each and every waking moment of my life on Facebook reconnecting with each and every one I went to school with all those many years ago. Oh, and I’m not exactly pumped to go to my high school reunion when it comes around, either. If I go, I go, if I don’t…oh well. ;-)

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  48. 48 Lin

    Uh, yeah. And that would be precisely the reason I DON’T join Facebook. If you are in my past and I don’t keep in touch now–guess what? Ain’t gonna reconnect now. Nope. I don’t want to hear anything from high school–I have fond rememberences–but I did the usual shady stuff too and I don’t want to revisit those times. I WAS A KID! Doing kid stuff.

    On another note–somehow I didn’t envision you as a stoner. :)

    Lin’s last blog post..The Music of the Night

  49. 49 Jeet

    It’s always like when you try to remember your high school after 20+ years. I managed to stay in touch with some of my friends. Facebook does bring a lot of old memories. Some people are good at remembering details but for others they are just hazy memories.

    Jeet’s last blog post..Bird Eye View of Space Shuttle Launch – Skydive

  50. 50 JD

    Florida Girl In Sydney: I found it! It was the second hit on Google. Now I can’t remember what the first one was—I should go back and see. Well, it was quite a post, well worth checking out. Again, I’m sorry you had to go thru that. No parent should ever leave their child like that.

    MomZombie: HA! Well, I guess I’m curious. The woman who contacted me—I know we were friends, I just don’t remember much about it. And I’d love to fill in the blanks of some of my memories. I know there were good ones tucked away.

    misstfied: Well, it sounds like you have a very healthy attitude toward Facebook and the past. I joined FB mainly to promote my blog and because a lot of my favorite bloggers were on it—it’s a good way to keep in touch with all of them. I probably “talk” to them more than old friends! I wouldn’t mind hearing from a few people and maybe even starting up “new” friendships, but not with people I barely knew.

    Lin: I agree to a point, but there are some friends from high school I wouldn’t mind hearing from and, like I said above, my main reason for joining FB is to hang out with my blogging friends. Join us! We’re the cool kids now!

    Jeet: Yeah, put me in the hazy category, for sure!

  51. 51 Shelly

    Yeah. Wasn’t quite in that crowd. I had fun but kept it “under the radar”. The thinf I dislike most about FB is when old friends think it’s a good idea to post all those old HS and grade school pics and tag me with them. I live 900 miles from “home” for a reason and now my new friends have seen stuff they shouldn’t have.

    However, as requested, I got a scanner for Mom’s day and I’m gonna get some serious payback!

    Shelly’s last blog post..Thursday Ramble 5/7

  52. 52 JD

    Shelly: Payback time! Yesssss! I haven’t been tagged in any embarrassing photos . . . yet.

  53. 53 Maureen

    Holy crap, this sounds just like me. I avoided our 30th reunion just last year. I look at my yearbooks and recognize a few people, but most have faded over time. Scary.

    I loved high school, but the thought of being tracked on Facebook is just too creepy. I have a Facebook account, I just don’t update it much.

    Maureen’s last blog post..You’re Giving Me Chest Pains

  54. 54 JD

    Maureen: It is scary how easy it is to forget people—especially when they remember you. I’d really love for some people (a select few) to fill in the blanks of some of my high school experiences. It might help explain a lot!

  55. 55 high school reunions

    That reminds me of year book signings at the end of the year in high school, everyone is so busy signing everyone’s year books and its fun but there was always that one person that wrote something super sweet and I just couldn’t remember who they were. It sounds horrible, but it’s true. I am making it a priority to look for those people at my upcoming high school reunion, I hope they remember me this time!

  56. 56 Turning Winds Review

    I know how it feels to forget even important events in our lives during high school. I think facebook has indeed help in some ways bring us back to those times. Although sometimes other people might just likely pretend that you personally know each other. We should be extra careful with giving out details though. Lots of teens have already been victimized because they gave out personal details with someone they thought they know.
    Cool post!


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