I Eat Alone

Pancakes are for eating, not licking

Blueberry Pancakes

It’s rare that Dave and I wake up at the same time.

But a few weeks ago, when his foot touched mine on a Saturday morning, I knew there was a reason.

“I want pancakes,” I said, “such that can be found only at Jack’s” (a nearby diner-type restaurant).

After careful consideration, he politely declined, explaining that it was Dave Day and breakfast at Jack’s didn’t fit into his plans.

I was so hungry for pancakes; specifically blueberry pancakes. Jack’s is one of those places where you can eat alone and not feel like a loser, but I’ve never tried it. I was a little nervous.

But I wanted those damn pancakes.

The restaurant was more crowded than I’d hoped, but the counter was practically empty, so I went for it. Once I took my seat, I knew I’d made the right decision.

Coffee?

Yes, PLEASE!

I watched the waitresses (and, no, they’re definitely NOT “servers”; at Jack’s, they are waitresses and proud of it) exchange banter with the line cooks. Some of them, according to the photos on the wall, have worked there for more than 20 years.

Marlene took my order and did not blink an eye at my request for extra syrup and extra-EXTRA butter.

In the approximately 4 minutes it took to get my pancakes, I felt perfectly content. No, I didn’t need a book or newspaper to hide behind, nor did I pretend to check my cell phone. I was quite happy just to sit there, looking around at everyone, swinging my legs, and enjoying how grown-up I was. Eating alone!

Three giant blueberry pancakes arrived, one of which I moved to the small plate on which my extra-EXTRA butter had come. That one was for later, and I didn’t want it ensoakened with syrup.

I happily dug in.

More coffee?

YES!

The pancakes did not disappoint. I ate with gusto, all the while trying to avoid eye contact with the guy who sat next to me. Is the best food the food you eat alone? I’m sure my friends don’t care when I get food all over myself, but the syrup that found its way in my hair, clothing, and wallet (?) seemed even less of an issue with no one there to see it.

This was the happiest breakfast I’d had in a while. I will do this again, I thought. Blueberry pancakes once a week!

More coffee?

No.

Because then a bunch of weirdos came in, and I left.

Do YOU eat alone?

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73 Responses to “I Eat Alone”

  1. 1 Bernie

    I do eat alone. When I was single, I thought nothing about going to a restaurant with a book and have a good meal. I think its good that people are able to do that. I have friends what would rather starve to death than go to a restaurant alone. Good for you. Glad you enjoyed your pancakes.
    .-= Bernie´s last blog ..Giveaway for people who have my banner on their blogs! ends 3/30 =-.

  2. 2 Jaffer

    Do I eat alone ?

    I always have breakfast on my own at Tim Horton’s. Great place for people watching. Time just flies !
    .-= Jaffer´s last blog ..ManiaRavings.com is re-launching ! =-.

  3. 3 Kathy

    I have never eaten alone, and I tip my hat to you for doing it and having a “swinging legs” good time! I did go to a movie once by myself (Dead Poet’s Society) and loved it. Your feat is more challenging because people could actually see you. I was protected by a dark theater. Congratulations! And now I want pancakes with extra syrup. And bacon and eggs, while I’m at it.
    .-= Kathy´s last blog ..Food That Looks Like Stuff =-.

  4. 4 Surfie

    Ooooooh, those pancakes look so yummy. And extra EXTRA butter? My mouth is watering. I wish I had some blueberry pancakes. And bacon. I love bacon with syrup all over it. Mmmm…

    Normally I do NOT eat alone, although after my first hypnotherapy session for my social anxiety, I felt so good that I wanted to test myself, and I drove down the street to the Taco Bell and had lunch in the dining area all by myself. It did feel slightly awkward, but only because it was kind of boring. I’m usually doing something when I’m eating like reading or watching TV.
    .-= Surfie´s last blog ..I Have Triumphed! =-.

  5. 5 Kelly

    Oh, yes! I actually like eating alone. It’s very relaxing, no pressure to have any kind of conversation, and people-watching is fun. I think I eat more slowly when I eat alone. And I get to catch up on my reading!
    .-= Kelly´s last blog ..Small Abstract No. 87 =-.

  6. 6 Grace

    Yes, having been single for a long time I did most everything alone and enjoyed it. I still prefer to shop alone, actually I prefer to do most things alone, that way I don’t have to listen too “Can we go home now” “Have you seen enough” et al

    My husband likes his extra-EXTRA butter too and sometimes at IHOP he has to ask 2 or 3 times for more butter, and if he is having an omelet, which comes with pancakes, he has to ask for a LARGE plate for the pancakes so he has room for the butter and syrup to play in gay abandon.
    .-= Grace´s last blog ..Ennui is me =-.

  7. 7 Stephanie Barr

    I frequently eat alone, but never by choice.

    I’m most impressed with how you savored your meal. Me, I tend to eat quickly when alone, hardly noticing whatever I’m eating.
    .-= Stephanie Barr´s last blog ..Swamped =-.

  8. 8 Shieldmaiden1196

    Down by our ‘first apartment’ there was one of those old Airstream-looking diners (until someone bought it, put it on a trailer, and took it to California) where you could get a short stack of apple cinnamon pancakes that were glorious; crisp at the edges, succulent in the middle; I parked myself on a whirly red stool amid the regulars; grizzled old men with nicotine stained fingers who debated politics and exchanged insults and welcomed me with a nod and a smile. I left the waitress a $5 tip on a $3 breakfast.

    I eat alone frequently because I’m on the road for my job. After three years of hitting the same towns over and over I’ve scoped out all the nice little parks and usually sit in the sun with my packed lunch and bliss out.
    .-= Shieldmaiden1196´s last blog ..Mountain Medicine =-.

  9. 9 Susan

    I can’t recall ever eating alone. Do you think it would have been as easy if the counter was full and you had to sit at a table or booth? And what if it was a longer meal, with a couple of courses and an entree that took more than 4 minutes to prepare? Think it would have been as easy?
    .-= Susan´s last blog ..Safari =-.

  10. 10 Daisy's mom

    You are so brave to eat alone and enjoy it! Last weekend when Mark was working, I picked up some takeout Italian food and had a feast at home.

    Now I am in the mood to go to The Original Pancake House. I always order the Dutch Baby – you put butter all over it, then squeeze the lemon slices on it, then put powdered sugar on top (these toppings come in little pots). It makes a fresh lemon icing that’s delicious!
    .-= Daisy’s mom´s last blog ..You Have Questions, I Have Answers! =-.

  11. 11 babs - beetle

    Sweet pancakes for breakfast is so not British. I used to eat lunch alone regularly when I was young, and often had pancakes after my meal. Not with all the dead flies in them though. I loved them with maple syrup and cream – Yummie. I wouldn’t eat alone now. No confidence at all I’m afraid.

    I had pancakes the other night, though not like yours. large and thin with plenty of lemon juice and sugar sprinkled all over, then rolled up in a tube. A typical English pancake :)
    .-= babs – beetle´s last blog ..To build or not to build? =-.

  12. 12 moooooog35

    I only eat alone if I’m in the theater by myself and I have popcorn and OMG I’m such a loser.
    .-= moooooog35´s last blog ..Hell the What Writing is This the Saying Woman? =-.

  13. 13 daughterbonnie

    Wow! I just can’t do it. It would take a bacon and creame cheese pizza to lure me into a restaurant by myself….even then I would eat a slice and box up the rest. You are now my hero for the day!

  14. 14 Felicia

    Good for you and your swinging legs…I would eat alone, but alas after going Vegan, there are no restaurants here for me anymore.
    .-= Felicia´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday =-.

  15. 15 Buggys

    Oh, wow, blueberry pancakes with extra butter, my very favorite. Did you have sausage with that too? My mouth is watering. I actually made blueberry pancakes on Saturday morning but we ate all the blueberries.
    I applaud you, big girl that you are! I have never eaten alone in public. I would feel so awkward and on display.
    .-= Buggys´s last blog ..Nike Shaky on Roethlisberger =-.

  16. 16 JD

    Bernie: I did enjoy my solo breakfast. But I don’t know that I could go just anywhere and eat. Maybe I’ll branch out and try lunch at a nicer place next time?

    Jaffer: Oh, yeah! Coffee shops are great places to be alone and people-watch. And drink coffee — especially Tim’s. I’d much prefer hanging out at Tim’s than Starbuck’s, tho we do have some nice local coffee shops here.

    Kathy: Yes, they DID see me! And I cared not a whit! It helps, tho, that it’s the sort of place many people do eat alone, and I was at the counter. I’ve gone to several movies alone. That’s fun too. I guess what I’m saying is, I hate people?

    Surfie: I have never been a fan of the bacon-syrup combo, but I considered a side of bacon with my pancakes. I almost always eat at the computer or TV, but I don’t mind being alone with my brain either. Congrats on testing out your new social self at Taco Bell!

    Kelly: I may have eaten more quickly, but that was probably because I was starving — and DIDN’T have anyone watching me wolf it down.

    Grace: Oh, I abso-LUTELY prefer shopping alone. I’d love to travel alone, too; then I could do whatever I wanted (because Dave is such a tyrant!) Your husband sounds like my kind of pancake-eater. So many people think it’s the syrup. It’s not. IT’S THE BUTTER!

    Stephanie Barr: Well, I did eat quickly because I was so hungry, but yes, I did enjoy each aspect of it. I may do it again this weekend!

    Shieldmaiden1196: Wow, you say it so much more eloquently than I did! I love your descriptions. (And for the record, I overtipped as well!) Nothing beats a little solo picnic lunch. I can’t wait for warmer weather. Lakefront, here I come!

    Susan: The counter was definitely preferable to a table. I think I would’ve been OK with a longer meal; it was more the actual restaurant. For example, I don’t think I’d be comfortable eating dinner at a fancy place all alone.

    Daisy’s mom: Oh ho ho! You don’t have to tell ME about the Dutch Baby! GOD I love that thing but am usually too impatient to wait. I like mine with strawberries, tho, instead of lemons. And both strawberry AND maple syrup. And a side of cheesy hash browns. Oh, man. That oatmeal this morning did NOT do the job.

    babs – beetle: Your English pancake sounds like a variation of the Dutch Baby (see above). No, here in the States we like our pancakes thick, tender, and sweet. And slathered in butter and syrup. What is with your “dead flies” comment???

    moooooo35: Yes, you are. I thought your comment was going to go in very uncomfortable direction. Luckily, it was just pathetic.

    daughterbonnie: Wow! A hero? Me? I will gladly eat pancakes in public alone forEVER!

    Felicia: That’s a shame. Vegans have a tough time of it. I just went out to lunch with a vegan friend and a vegetarian friend. Geez, no eggs even? It’s tough out there, for a vegan.

    Buggys: I thought I would feel awkward and too “out there,” but I really didn’t. No sausage. Sausage is not my scene. Maybe a link every now and then. Thinking back, I wish I’d gotten hash browns. Maybe next time.

  17. 17 Patricia

    I have eaten alone before and truly enjoyed it. It helps if you’re in a restaurant where you feel safe and comfortable. It also helps if there is a host or hostess to seat you rather than finding your own seat–so you can be sure you’ll be left alone. On the other hand, if you’re feeling sociable, there’s nothing more wonderful than eating alone on a train where they seat you with other people automatically and you get to meet all sorts of interesting folks!
    .-= Patricia´s last blog ..Name That Cat! =-.

  18. 18 Barb at WillThink4Wine

    I do lots of things alone. I started long before my divorce because he never wanted to DO anything. Phooie on him. I did it anyway. Movies. Wine dinners. Eating…

    I meet lots of interesting folks that way, too!

    Now I want pancakes. ;0)
    .-= Barb at WillThink4Wine´s last blog ..I’m a bad blogger =-.

  19. 19 Puglette

    yay, what a brave girl you are! yes, i have and will eat alone in restaurants. when i was working i would occasionally go to a cafe for lunch. i enjoyed it.

    but why did you save one pancake for later? is that later in the day? and i love your new word ensoakened. very nice.

    and i am very glad you ate pancakes for me, especially blueberry ones. pancakes…meh blueberries…bleh
    hugs,
    puglette
    :)
    .-= Puglette´s last blog ..From Around the Interwebs! =-.

  20. 20 LJ

    In my 20′s I used to do a lot of things alone – eat, movies, walks etc. But something changed and I’m not sure what.

    I could probably eat alone now IF I had something to read. Otherwise just sitting there contemplating life and staring off in the the distance – just seems weird.

    You’ve given me courage to try it though – the next time my husband is out of town.
    .-= LJ´s last blog ..I Refuse to Pity Party Alone! =-.

  21. 21 Anne

    I have never gone to a restaurant alone (that I remember) but I have definitely eaten alone in airports, at trade shows, etc. I don’t know if it counts because it was work or if you only want times I have chosen to eat alone (although some of those work things were choices to avoid the crabby client). It sounds like you did amazing! I admire you greatly for being such a brave alone eater.
    .-= Anne´s last blog ..Scheduling and Girl Scout Cookies, What the Hell? =-.

  22. 22 Shadowsrider

    I do many things alone. Shopping is a big one, that way I can browse without anyone getting impatient. Movies alone, yes, when I’m the only one in the house who wants to see it.
    I have eaten alone many times, I rather enjoy it. Lunch alone with a book is ‘me’ time. But breakfast I almost prefer alone, esp if I am going out to IHOP or someplace like that. Then I can order my cheese omelet, hashbrowns, bacon, and stack of pancakes (oh yes, extra, extra butter! It’s all about the butter, baby!) with hot tea, and eat myself into a food coma in peace.
    *sigh*
    .-= Shadowsrider´s last blog ..Weapons of mass destruction. =-.

  23. 23 Jen @ lifelove'n'wine

    Mmmm…this post made me so hungry for breakfast…it’s my fav meal to eat out!

    I can’t think of a time that I have ever gone to a restaurant to eat alone, but lately I have been thinking about trying it, so it’s funny that you wrote this. I would have to bring a book or something though because I get bored easily and love to read while I eat. Go you!
    .-= Jen @ lifelove’n'wine´s last blog ..True? I think so. =-.

  24. 24 ann

    It took me a long time before I was able to go someplace and eat by myself. Once I did though I found out it was kind of fun. You don’t have anyone bugging you and you can people watch. I bet it would have been funny sitting there watching some lady get syrup all over in her hair and in her wallet…lol
    .-= ann´s last blog ..Something from the oven =-.

  25. 25 meleah rebeccah

    I eat alone often. And it can be very liberating! I just love me some blueberry pancakes with extra syrup and extra-EXTRA butter too!!
    .-= meleah rebeccah´s last blog ..Doing Things Differently™ – My Week In Review [Part Five] =-.

  26. 26 Christopher (AKA: CaJoh)

    I read an article that talked about those places that people don’t normally go alone. Places like the movies and eating and it got me to thinking.

    One day I decided to go eat alone, and a few months after that I went to a move by myself. To think that I spent 25 years of my life before that time always doing those things with someone.
    .-= Christopher (AKA: CaJoh)´s last blog ..What worth is the world to myself =-.

  27. 27 Spot

    For once, I’m super glad you did something so I don’t have to. I’ve never eaten out alone. I’m just too social. I’d probably end up inviting a stranger to sit with me. I like to have conversation while I eat. I very rarely even eat alone at home. If the kids or hubby aren’t here to eat with, I usually skip it. Meals anyway. I can snack alone. But I equate meal time with social time. We always eat as a family. I know, I’m weird. Oh well.

    Those pancakes looked amazing though. Totally craving pancakes now. Thanks for that.

    ♥Spot
    .-= Spot´s last blog ..I should have been a doctor, or at least played one on TV =-.

  28. 28 April

    I am single and happily so. Dining out alone doesn’t even phase me. I go see movies alone too.

    In fact, with 2 little ones that are usually along for the ride, I PREFER to dine alone. Anyone wanna babysit? :)

  29. 29 Lola

    Oooh! Jack’s on Touhy? I remember it well!

    Now I’m going to have to see if I have any blueberries in the freezer because now I have to have some blueberry pancakes!
    .-= Lola´s last blog ..Questions to ask pre-date or on a date… =-.

  30. 30 flit

    I enjoy going to restaurants by myself on occasion – have done some of my best writing that way.
    .-= flit´s last blog ..The Late Professor(s) =-.

  31. 31 JD

    Patricia: You’re absolutely right. I’ve been to this place many times, and the waitresses are all sweethearts. As are the cooks and busboys. The clientele is made up of older folks than me, which makes it nicer. If I am FORCED to sit with other people (say, at Benihana), I usually do quite enjoy it. But I don’t seek out their company.

    Barb at WillThink4Wine: Good for you! See above about my feelings regarding meeting new people.

    Puglette: THANK YOU for appreciating “ensoakened.” It seems like it should be a word. I’m sorry you don’t like blueberry pancakes. Actually, I dislike fruit in general, but I’ll make an exception for blueberry pancakes. Yes, I think I had the pancake later in the day. Ensoakened in syrup and butter, naturally.

    LJ: Try it! You might be pleasantly surprised. But then I might have a freak brain. Either that, or I’m totally in love with myself, because I really do enjoy my own company.

    Anne: It counts! Especially if it involves a crabby client. Hee! I do feel quite brave. I might do it again this weekend, but I’ll probably resist the urge to blog about it.

    Shadowsrider: Yes, yes, yes! I hear ya, sistah! I prefer shopping alone too. I’ve never done the “lunch and book” thing, but maybe I’ll try that next. I just don’t know that I could concentrate. I’m just too excited!

    Jen @ lifelove’n'wine: And go YOU! Bring your book (or perhaps a celebrity magazine?) and have a great time. But you may surprise yourself and just start swinging your legs and looking around you instead of reading.

    ann: Hmm. I had not thought that someone ELSE might be watching ME! Oh, who am I kidding. EVERYone watches me, syrup and all. Phooey. I’m sure it was funny. Next time I’ll bring a hair clip.

    meleah rebeccah: We MUST do breakfast! We can sit by ourselves at opposite ends of the restaurant and wave every now and then!

    Christopher (AKA CaJoh): Hooray! Alone can be good. I remember my first movie alone. My heart was pounding! I sat there eating my buttered popcorn and felt all important and stuff. I’ll have to do that again, too.

    Spot: You’re not weird at ALL! I’m the weirdo who prefers to listen to the voices in her head than talk to real people. Even people I like! No, I think meal time=social time is very healthy and normal. Aaaand, you’re welcome.

    April: Heh! Yeah, I see where you’re coming from. I wish there wasn’t a stigma attached to eating alone. Tho I cannot STAND seeing an old person eating alone. I mean a really old person. That makes me sad. And then I lose my appetite.

    Lola: YES! They used to be open 24 hours, then regular hours, and now they’re only open for b-fast and lunch. Shame.

    flit: I used to get a lot of writing done (back in the days when I wrote longhand) at coffee shops. Again, tho, I’d often get lost in my head, stare outside, watch other people . . . I’m more productive when I’m ALONE alone.

  32. 32 Tara

    I used to travel for business a lot and at first I HATED having to go out to eat a lot. Then I grew to like it. I liked the people watching and the freedom of choosing whatever I wanted to eat without thinking about what everyone else at the table was eating. (Oh, you’re all going to just have a salad? I guess I’ll pass on that greasy cheeseburger and just have a salad, too.)

    You’ve just reminded me of how much I enjoyed that. I may have to slip out for lunch on my own tomorrow!
    .-= Tara´s last blog ..I Would Like to Introduce the Concept of Sweatpants =-.

  33. 33 Kathleen Kaufman

    I eat alone and go to movies alone. It used to really make me uncomfortable, like everyone was wondering what was wrong with me that I had no friends to join me, but over the years I’ve gotten over it.

    Movies I prefer alone, The Husband and I hardly ever get dates so when we do get out, we want to talk to each other, and hardly ever waste our date nights in a theatre.

    However – for whatever reason, I’m still odded out by drinking alone – unless I’m alone in my house…then it’s really no problem…. But ordering alcohol when I’m by myself is awkward for me. I don’t know why. I have no reasonable explanation for it really…even in airports and on the plane, it feels awkward if I’m by myself.
    .-= Kathleen Kaufman´s last blog ..I’m Not A Doctor But I Read A Lot of WebMD…. =-.

  34. 34 absepa

    Before I got married, I used to do most everything alone…movies, restaurants, and shopping. I never traveled alone, but that’s because I was young and broke, not because I didn’t want to. I was an only child for a long time, so I guess I got used to being happy with my own company.

    That Dutch Baby thing sounds awesome! I’ve never seen it in a restaurant around here, so I might have to try to re-create it at home.
    .-= absepa´s last blog ..One burger, please hold the interrogation =-.

  35. 35 Bingo

    I love eating alone. I’m a sushi lover and some times my friends don’t want to go with me so I go alone and I enjoy it a lot. I think it’s good to be alone some times.
    .-= Bingo´s last blog ..That’s an uber bingo! =-.

  36. 36 CatLadyLarew

    I occasionally eat alone, but I usually take a book along to read. I’m more likely to go to the movies alone.
    .-= CatLadyLarew´s last blog ..Ten Years From Now… =-.

  37. 37 Maureen

    Me. Want. Blueberry. Pancakes.

    Oh yum, those look delish! I eat lunch every day alone in my office. I love it. It’s peace and quiet.

    I have eaten dinner alone too; mostly on business trips in hotel restaurants. I rarely get social and am quite the “loner”. I guess you could call me quite the “loser” too come to think of it ….

    Loved the “swinging my legs, and enjoying how grown-up I was.” part!
    .-= Maureen´s last blog ..Roll Up The Rim =-.

  38. 38 Janiss

    Sometimes I prefer eating alone (and going to the movies alone too) because I have the freedom to order/see whatever I want without anyone’s judgment/commentary/unwanted input/interruptions. Basically, I’m a touch antisocial, in other words, LOL! Also, I like going to the local coffeehouse/restaurant with just my laptop to have a mocha and get some work done in an environment different from my home office. This really helps me when I am working on a fresh project.
    .-= Janiss´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday: Ring Around the Kitty =-.

  39. 39 Pricilla

    In the days before they retired the publicist did lots of things alone because the male person worked so many hours.

    She would eat out alone, go to the movies alone, she even went to plays alone. She got used to it.

    It’s not bad.

    ensoakened. heh heh
    .-= Pricilla´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday =-.

  40. 40 cardiogirl

    I don’t eat alone, but I have. However, I would like to issue a challenge if I may.

    I would argue that eating at the counter does not count, since it is made for the solitary diner. I would like you to eat alone at Jack’s in a booth or at a table away from the counter minus a book, a newspaper or a cell phone to check.

    Will you please eat alone in a booth or an exposed table — away from the counter — so I don’t have to?

    Thanks in advance.
    .-= cardiogirl´s last blog ..File this under handy tips =-.

  41. 41 ann of thejunkdrawerblogfamily

    JD…
    I have to agree with Cardiogirl. Eating at the counter is like sitting at a bar. It screams…I vant to be alone. However, solitary booth confinement is certainly more challenging, esp without all the handheld distractions. I will be sitting all alone in front of my laptop waiting for that episode. Order Up!

  42. 42 JD

    Tara: Yes, DO! And enjoy that greasy cheeseburger as much as I enjoyed my pancakes. I have to admit that I, too, am sometimes inhibited by what my fellow eaters are having. I am capable of eating A LOT, so it can be embarrassing.

    Kathleen Kaufman: I can understand the drinking alone in public thing. Altho on airplanes? If I drank, I would have no problem drinking alone on a plane, I think. But not in a bar or restaurant. I always admire movie women who casually sidle up to the bar and order a drink solo. Of course that scene is usually followed by a hot guy picking her up. Maybe that’s why . . . ?

    absepa: If you try making the Dutch Baby, let me know. My one attempt was pretty pathetic. I would LOVE to travel alone. Nothing against Dave or my mom, but . . . I would love it. To just go to, say, San Francisco, and poke around, eat where I want, do what I want . . . HEAVEN!

    Bingo: Hey, we should get sushi together sometime! I love it too, but I have to say I ALWAYS get it to go. The little sushi place I go to has tables, but I would feel weird eating there alone.

    CatLadyLarew: I gotta get out to more movies alone. There’s a theater really close to my house, and weekday afternoons are usually doable for me. Maybe tomorrow. Alice in Wonderland?

    Maureen: If you’re a loser, then so am I — and I REFUSE to believe both of us are losers! Loners, yes. Happy loners! I envy your getting to travel on business and eat alone in hotel restaurants. That sounds grown-up AND glamorous!

    Janiss: When I first got my laptop a few years ago, I was sure I’d do more “coffeeshop working.” But I haven’t done that much. I should. It’d be good to shake things up. I’m more than a touch antisocial!

    Pricilla: No, it’s not bad at ALL! Dave’s schedule and mine are not exactly in sync, so I either do it alone, do it with friends, or don’t do it. (But alone is best!)

    cardiogirl: ABSOLUTELY! I disagree that the counter doesn’t count (true, it’s made for the solitary diner BUT it’s still eating out alone). I would’ve taken a booth, but as I said, the place was somewhat crowded, so I felt like it wasn’t fair. I will go for LUNCH by myself and eat in a booth. Challenge accepted!

    ann of the junkdrawerblogfamily: See above!

  43. 43 cardiogirl

    Okay, on that technicality I will concede that it was, in fact, eating out alone. But I am jazzed that you will accept the challenge.

    Now, to drill down further: are these booths that are higher than your head when sitting down or does the back of the booth stop at your shoulders thereby revealing your head?

    Yes, I will make you work for this challenge.
    .-= cardiogirl´s last blog ..I’m not flashing my headlights and I am not forwarding an email to ten people either =-.

  44. 44 Regan

    Well, sometimes I have to if my parents aren’t home.

    However, although this isn’t really eating by myself, it was still without adults. At the beach this past summer, I went with my family and my friend’s family. Our parent’s went on this short cruise thing together and they gave me and my friend money to eat somewhere. So we went to the Chicken or the Egg, a restaurant down there. We even gave a fake name! And then ordered a bunch of food we couldn’t finish so we had to take some home! And we felt so grown up!

  45. 45 Viveca

    Sometimes.

    The best eating alone meals tend to be over breakfast, great coffee, The Wall Street Journal and all the time I want to read it. That’s luxurious.

    I also like to do “virtual” lunches. Call a girlfriend and catch up between bites …

    You’ve made me hungry … for blueberry pancakes!

    Wonder what’s for dinner. Better start thinking about that …

    V.
    .-= Viveca´s last blog ..Boost Your Energy with fun, Fun, FUN! =-.

  46. 46 Super Mommie

    Thank you for eating alone so I don’t have to. I know that I shouldn’t be freaked out by doing it but I am, so I never have. Perhaps I’ll follow your lead and do it…but I’m bringing a book.
    .-= Super Mommie´s last blog ..Will Someone Please Pass Me The Trash Can? =-.

  47. 47 The Other Patricia

    “When I eat alone…I prefer to be WITH myself…” Neer Neer Neer Neer Neer…

    Before I met my husband (aka, a-built-in-buddy-with-whom-it-is-required-by-contract-with-God-and-or-state-to-do-stuff) I would eat by myself, or, as Oprah insists on calling it, WITH myself. I’d grab a book, the more erudite the better, go into a restaurant and eat WITH myself and try to frown and look like a misanthrope. Oh, and you must wear all black to eat WITH yourself in this manner. I still can’t believe I didn’t get picked up more men (okay, any men at all) using this WITH myself method. Perhaps because WITH isn’t a designated driver and he couldn’t buy me a drink?

  48. 48 Your Daily Cute

    I don’t, but I often wish I do. Sometimes I just really crave a certain restaurant and there’s no one to go with… so I just stay home.

    Bravo for you!

    Maybe I’ll try it soon. Your breakfast sounded awesome!
    .-= Your Daily Cute´s last blog ..Mick the Amazing Skateboarding Cat =-.

  49. 49 Jenn of Many Cabbages

    Yes, being single, I do– and in fact one of my mostest favoritest breakfasts ever was when I was in San Francisco on a business trip and I treated myself to Lemon Chiffon Pancakes with Raspberries and Raspberry Sauce.

    It was at my hotel on top of Nob Hill, and while there wasn’t any one to share the glee of these light and fluffy works of pancake art, I did regale the waiter with my happiness.

    He kinda didn’t so much care, but it still made me feel good to talk about it. :)

    Glad you had such a special breakfast at Jack’s. Sometimes eating by yourself out is nice because you have time to really look around you.
    .-= Jenn of Many Cabbages´s last blog ..Bloggy Birthdays and Sleeper Posts =-.

  50. 50 Jen

    I eat alone all the time. Usually over the kitchen sink or in front of my computer but that isn’t really eating alone. I don’t think I have ever gone out to eat alone, unless you count drive thrus. I did see a movie alone once, it was really great. I got to eat all the popcorn, no one backwashed in my pop and the couple next to me didn’t seem to mind me discussing the plot line with them too much.

    Mmmm Pancakes.
    .-= Jen´s last blog ..Blogs I Hate =-.

  51. 51 Jay

    Do I eat alone? Oh yes, if necessary, I definitely eat alone! But you and I differ in one thing. The splashes of pasta sauce or gravy down my front and the crumbs that shower everyone as I stand up are MORE of an issue when I’m alone, than when I have someone to hide behind. LOL!
    .-= Jay´s last blog ..Friday Finding Beauty – A man and his dog =-.

  52. 52 meleah rebeccah

    OKAY! I will gladly take you up on that offer!
    .-= meleah rebeccah´s last blog ..Doing Things Differently™ – My Week In Review [Part Five] =-.

  53. 53 JD

    cardiogirl: “Jazzed,” you say? YES! The booths are lower than your head. Everyone will see me stuffing a giant deep-fried, bacon-filled, cheese-slathered hot dog into my face.

    Regan: Wow, that sounds like fun! I hope your parents gave you enough money for all that food. What was the fake name? Was it Zsa Zsa Gabor?

    Viveca: Now I do not like talking on the phone, but I often eat at the computer. I agree about breakfast out, great coffee, and the paper. Or just your thoughts.

    Super Mommie: Bringing a book is NOT considered cheating. If you go, please let us know how it went. I bet you’ll have fun! (Just be careful with the syrup.)

    The Other Patricia: I am absolutely on board with the “WITH.” But black? It washes me out. I’ll admit, it makes me look artsy and smarter than I am. It’s easy for me to look like a misanthrope because I AM but nevertheless, those frown lines are killers.

    Your Daily Cute: You should definitely try it! Especially if there’s somewhere you really want to go. It doesn’t hurt, I promise.

    Jenn of Many Cabbages: That sounds like an awesome pancake experience — even better than regular ol’ blueberry ones. But it doesn’t matter. As long as you have fun and enjoy what you eat, it’s all good. (Maybe you should’ve had my waitress as your server. She was as excited as I was!)

    Jen: HA! What was the movie? My first solo movie was “Wings of a Dove,” and I was terrified I was going to be mugged or something.

    Jay: Ah, you make a good point. I’m sure I just fooled myself into thinking it wasn’t an issue; everyone was probably talking about me as soon as I left!

    meleah rebeccah: OKAY! Now where do you live again?

  54. 54 Will

    Yes I do, often. Not a good habit, I know, but that’s life. I do generally eat healthy though, whether eating in, out, with company or alone. But….. I won’t say anything about the extra syrup and extra, EXTRA butter. Or did I just? Sorry.
    .-= Will´s last blog ..Can The World Really Afford To Eat Ethically? =-.

  55. 55 Lin

    Only out of necessity, not for pleasure. Like if I’m at jury duty and they let us out for 2 hours–I’m all about sitting and relaxing at a restaurant. But will I pop over for dinner when nobody is home?? Nope.
    .-= Lin´s last blog ..The pros and cons of Spring =-.

  56. 56 Kathleen Kaufman

    I don’t even count eating sushi as eating alone, no one I know will go for sushi with me….hmm….

    I don’t know why… The Husband had a bad octopus experience a few years ago..
    .-= Kathleen Kaufman´s last blog ..The Winner of Super Fantastic Blog Contest! Emily Holman!!!!! =-.

  57. 57 lilly

    No, I have never eaten alone ever. Good on you and this post made me hungry for pancakes. Just found your blog on Blog Catalog and looks so much fun!!

  58. 58 Jen

    I don’t remember what movie it was. Probably some chick flick or action flick. As long as no one is running around saying Picachu over and over again I don’t care what movie I see.
    .-= Jen´s last blog ..Blogs I Hate =-.

  59. 59 Sheila Sultani

    I ONLY like eating alone. I hate restaurants cause I can’t stand watching other people chew their food. I loose my appetite when I cook for the family (what does that say about my cooking?) the food I enjoy is the stuff I set aside and pull out when the kids are at school or asleep. I got issues.
    .-= Sheila Sultani´s last blog ..Looking For Work? Huge Employment Opportunity – Hiring 40,000 =-.

  60. 60 Master Dayton

    I eat alone quite often, but I also like to come in during odd hours when there aren’t a lot of people. Lunch at 2:30 to 3, dinner at 4:30 or 8:30 depending on when I had lunch, times like that.
    .-= Master Dayton´s last blog ..Master Dayton Freelance Writing Blog: 50th Post =-.

  61. 61 Kathryn

    First and foremost: “Word” did not bust you on the word ensoakened? I LOVE this word! I can think of many a time when it would have come in handy…had I only known it existed.
    I could use it in a sentence including the word thai porn, but that shall have to wait.

    I too, love blueberry pancakes! They are my favorite kind of pancakes! As a matter of fact, my sister served them to me the morning we had to camp there during our blackout and I immediately went out that week and bought a box of pancake mix and a bag of Dole frozen blueberries…(’cause I’m all about being all-natural and stuff).

    What are the odds?

    I’m very proud of you for following your heart (or your grumbly tummy, as it were) and eating alone. I can just picture you with syrup in your hair…legs dangling off the stool. I’ll bet you swung from left to right a few times as well, didn’t you? That’s probably how you spilled coffee on next-door guy’s newspaper, which he promptly asked you to autograph…’cause you’re, ya know, JD. Then you donned your movie-star glasses and beat feet out of there, ’cause you were creating a scene with your fabulousness…the real reason you had to leave…but you’re so humble, you changed the story to say that some weirdos came in. (“We prefer to be called ‘JD’s biggest, hugest fan club…in the local area, at least…since it’s world-wide’, said Bart Jackawannadothings, fan club spokesman, pointing to the crowd of yellow t-shirt-clad groupies heading towards the counter and an unsuspecting JD.)

    C’mon. You know that’s how it really happened….
    .-= Kathryn´s last blog ..Thaw =-.

  62. 62 injaynesworld

    Ah, damn… and you even included a photo of the pancakes. Now I’m going to obsess about blueberry pancakes until I get some. And yes, I eat out alone… Sometimes it’s fun to wear big sunglasses, dart furtive looks around the place and pretend like you’re taking notes just to mess with people.

  63. 63 Lauren

    Well, now I must have blueberry pancakes. The thought of melted butter drizzled across a pancake, dripping down the sides of the stack, intermingled with syrup. The fork penetrating fluffy, lightly browned cakes, then separating one four-layered piece from the stack and sliding it across the plate into a pool of syrup and butter. Slowly lifting the fork to my mouth, parting my lips, and tasting the slippery, sugary, pieces that melt on my tongue. Yes! Yes! Yes!

    And about eating alone, masticating in public is never frowned upon. I don’t mind eating alone with an iPod headphone bud planted in each ear, listening to my favorite song.
    .-= Lauren´s last blog ..Scarfing Down Scooby Snacks as American Idol Idles. =-.

  64. 64 Stacey Kimmel-Smith

    I eat alone all the time and have to say I really enjoy sitting in a restaurant with a good book. It feels incredibly self-indulgent and enjoyable.

  65. 65 Tracy

    You know, I’m finding it’s awesome to do things alone. I like people and all but for something I really want to enjoy and do my own way, well other folks just get in the way of that.

    Unfortunately, the boys are my built in entourage so I don’t get to eat alone in restaurants very often but I love it when I get the chance. Don’t tell my husband, but grocery shopping doesn’t really take 4 hours, I just have a meal before and after.

    I really like eating alone in places with families so I can see how other people’s kids misbehave in public and feel better about myself. It’s something I don’t get a chance to notice when my kids are crawling under booths screaming and grabbing people’s ankles with their sticky kid hands.
    .-= Tracy´s last blog ..I Have Career Goals, Y’all =-.

  66. 66 JD

    Will: I think it’s VERY healthy to eat out alone. It shows you don’t care what people think and are happy with your own company. Of course, I also think extra-EXTRA butter is healthy, so what do I know?

    Lin: Two hours? What kind of jury duty is THAT? The only time I did jury duty, they ordered in sandwiches and we had to eat them in a tiny room. And they didn’t get my order right! I don’t think I’d do dinner either.

    Kathleen Kaufman: I think Bingo will go! Check out her comment. Or I would be happy to go with you, as long as you don’t make me eat octopus.

    lilly: Hey! Thank you, and welcome! We ARE a fun bunch here, I have to say. I only wish I could offer you some pancakes.

    Jen: Heh. PICACHU! That’s kind of fun. I might start screaming that at the next movie I go to. ALONE!

    Sheila Sultani: Yes, you got issues, but I like them. I’m not a big fan of watching other people eat, either (and I’m sure it’s mutual). Also, I don’t like eating what I cook. I don’t think I’m that BAD of a cook; it just loses its appeal. I mostly like anything someone else prepares, brings me, takes away, and cleans up.

    Master Dayton: Yeah, there you go. Odd hours is key to the solo eating experience. Altho I planned on having a quick lunch at a Middle Eastern place at 2:30, but they were PACKED, so I had to skulk out to my car and eat my falafel in the parking lot.

    Kathryn: I DID swing from left to right! I barely resisted the urge to spin around completely. HAHAHAHA! How did you know my rabid fans tracked me down to Jack’s, where I was trying to enjoy some syrup-ensoakened pancakes and read Thai porn? But yellow? I think of my fans as wearing hot pink and silver.

    injaynesworld: Oh, my god, I LOVE taking notes, tho they usually aren’t pretend. People will often ask intrusive questions, which allows you to blow them off, thereby appearing even MORE mysterious!

    Lauren: GOD! Stop it! I only had stale donuts for b-fast today. Definitely not like the experience you so deliciously described. Man, that is some good pancake prose. It makes me want . . . well, not even pancakes, exactly. Hmm!

    Stacey Kimmel-Smith: It DOES feel self-indulgent. I like to indulge myself. I deserve it. And so do you. So does everyone! PANCAKES FOR ALL! (but you must eat them alone in public)

    Tracy: Um . . . now, just where do you and your kids eat? I’ll have to remember that meal before and after shopping. Is that brunch and second brunch? Or pre-breakfast and almost-breakfast? It’s a good idea to stick as many meals as possible into a day.

  67. 67 Straight Guy

    I can and do eat out by myself, but mostly when I am traveling for work. But really, who needs friends when you have pancakes? I was once in Anaheim by myself and decided to go to Disneyland for an afternoon. Weird, but I survived. And I did, and ate, exactly what I wanted to.

  68. 68 jackie deguevara

    I love to go to restaurants but not by myself! We have so many good ones here in Las Vegas but you just can’t go out by yourself..I have lots of girlfriends so I can usually call on one of them if hubby is not around…if he is at the race track, I like to try out new recipes here at home, I am becoming quite the little chef!
    I now plan meals if I know he is going to be gone, I get out recipes to try and go to the grocery store the day before, wine helps me feel not so alone. You are brave to go it alone with those pancakes!

  69. 69 Mary @ Holy Mackerel

    I used to eat alone, and now sometimes wish I could, but seem to always have someone around me, usually a smaller human being or a husband, and god forbid I get a moment to myself to even wipe my butt let alone eat a waffle by myself. And at a restaurant??? Nah. Not gonna happen.

    But good for you! Thank you for letting me experience this vicariously through you. You are awesome.
    .-= Mary @ Holy Mackerel´s last blog ..This Is For You, Joanna From The Czech Republic! Thank You For Your Patronage =-.

  70. 70 JD

    Straight Guy: HI STRAIGHT GUY! I think going to Disneyland alone trumps anything I’ve ever heard of! Wow! That is awesome. But I bet you had a great time, right? And no one looked at you funny either. Good for you. And yes, pancakes sometimes make better friends than people.

    jackie deguevara: YOU are brave to try all those new recipes! That is one thing I am not yet brave enough to do. Cooking is just not in my wheelhouse. And I doubt I’d feel brave enough to go out to eat in Las Vegas by myself. Luckily you have lots of fun girlfriends!

    Mary @ Holy Mackerel: I’m disturbed that “wipe my butt” and “eat a waffle” are in the same sentence, but I’ll let it go for now. Mainly because you said I was awesome.

  71. 71 blueyes

    Heck ya I eat alone all the time…probably more often than not because I have no significant other and I care not to cook for just myself lol Luckily I have a local hangout so I'm friends with all those people and just catch up when I get there.

  72. 72 JD at I Do Things

    That sounds like the perfect setup. Kind of like “Cheers,” eh? Where everyone knows your name?

  73. 73 Caroline

    i LOVE eating alone! Especially out to breakfast. Its the best.

    Eating Lunch and having a glass of wine also makes me feel very… sophisticated…


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